Relationship management
Relationship management: the path from roles and duties to genuine appreciation
Everyday life: Mutual dependence and role thinking
Many relationships are based on more or less rigid roles, rules and obligations. Despite the simplification that this type of cohabitation brings to everyday life, it often leads to emotional exhaustion and inner emptiness. In everyday life, this manifests itself in a routine sequence of tasks that both partners have to fulfil. You feel trapped in a cycle that is determined by expectations and dependencies. These relationships function according to the principle: "I do it for you because you do it for me."
This dependency can lead to a feeling of oppression or inadequacy, where you feel that you are not really seen or valued. Each partner fulfils their role, but real closeness and connection is missing. Such relationships are unfortunately widespread, even if no one consciously strives for them or wants to admit it to themselves. The result is often a deep inner dissatisfaction and a constant feeling of inadequacy, dependency, frustration and annoyance. Usually on both sides.
Genuine appreciation and freedom
Imagine a relationship based on mutual freedom, sincere transparency and recognition of needs. Here, the relationship is not lived as a burden, but as a conscious decision every day. Both partners are independent and strong, they contribute because they want to, not because they have to.
In such a relationship, there are no rigid roles or fixed duties. Every moment is an opportunity to see and appreciate the other person for what they are, because what they are is already there. And I am allowed to participate in it without having to judge it or be responsible or even guilty for it. This freedom and sincerity creates a deep, genuine connection. Both partners feel heard and respected, which leads to a fulfilling and vibrant relationship. The emotional experience in this type of relationship is characterised by joy, lightness and a deep sense of satisfaction and certainty.
The path to a high-quality relationship
It takes courage and conscious work to move from a dependent, role-bound relationship to one full of appreciation and freedom. This is where non-violent communication (NVC) plays a crucial role. NVC helps to communicate openly and honestly without judgement or accusation. This promotes an understanding of each other's needs.
Steps towards enriching, high-quality relationships:
- Self-reflection: Recognise your own needs and feelings. Only those who know themselves can communicate authentically and openly. What is inside you and is recognised can be brought into relationship, on your own responsibility instead of in expectation of your partner or dependence on your partner.
- Honest communication: Talk openly about your feelings and needs, be curious about your partner. Always be clear: it's about connecting, seeing and recognising each other and NOT about finding a solution. In a high-quality relationship, both of you can do this on your own.
- Freedom and independence: Give each other the space to grow and develop independently. A strong relationship consists of two strong individuals.
- Conscious decisions: Make a conscious decision for your relationship every day. Don't let it become routine, but live your partnership actively and with curiosity every day.
Through these steps and the application of NVC, a relationship can be transformed from rigid roles and obligations to a deep, appreciative connection. Such a relationship is not only fulfilling, but also a constant source of joy and inner peace.
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